Are you the kind of person who is always worried about keeping everyone happy? Do you find yourself constantly putting others' needs before your own, even if it means compromising on your own happiness? If so, you might be a people pleaser.
People pleasing is a common habit that can be both a blessing and a curse. On the one hand, your desire to make others happy can make you empathetic and compassionate. However, when taken too far, it can be detrimental to your own wellbeing and can lead to a lack of self-esteem and boundary setting. In this blog post, we will discuss the origins of people pleasing and how to overcome it.
People pleasing often stems from our desire to be accepted and liked by others. This can start from childhood, where we learn to conform to social norms and seek approval from our parents, teachers, and peers. The more positive attention we receive, the more likely we are to continue this behavior.
Another reason for people pleasing is fear of rejection or conflict. People pleasers may feel that if they don't go along with what others want, they will be ostracized or face negative consequences. This fear can be paralyzing and lead to a lack of assertiveness.
Lastly, people pleasing can stem from a need for control. By going out of their way to make others happy, people pleasers feel that they have some control over situations and can prevent negative outcomes.
People pleasing can be a challenging habit to overcome, but it is important to do so in order to lead a fulfilling life. Remember that setting healthy boundaries and prioritizing your own needs is not selfish, but rather a necessary part of self-care. With the right mindset and support, anyone can overcome people pleasing and live a life that is true to themselves.
At Nadia Dhillon Counseling, our therapists work towards guiding individuals through self-discovery, understanding their problems, and finding solutions to improve their well-being. If you need counseling services to assist you in overcoming people pleasing behavior, contact us today to schedule an appointment.